Kiss5Tigers

The 5 Tigers represent the big things in life. This blog is about facing them.


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Can I Do This?

Last Monday, I facilitated a group.

On Monday afternoons, I attend the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance support group, because I have bipolar II, which I’ve mentioned before.  I’ve been going for about 3 years now.  I’ve worked through the book more than once.  I know the answers, haha, as if I could know the right answers to mental health when it’s different for everyone.

The regular facilitator was having a hard day and asked me if I would lead.  None of this is surprising, since he is a peer and the group could be led by any peer.  I said yes, and I was happy to do this favor for him.

It went surprisingly well.  We worked our way through 2 pages in the book.  That may not be much but it included some conversation and it was the end of a section.  Didn’t make sense to start a new section with only 15 minutes left.  The group appreciated the chance to chat during the session.  It was a little more active than the usual facilitator likes, but we have different philosophies.  He is trying to get through the book, whereas I use the book as a jumping-off point.  Nothing wrong with either one, just different.

At the same time, I have been hearing about women who lead seminars to help other women.  I think I could lead one about vision boards and creating goals.  It would be maybe 3 hours, give or take.  Part of it would be about setting goals, where do you want to be in, say, 5 years?  Or indeed, ever?  Part of it would be making the actual vision board.  And part of it would be about sharing our dreams and visions.  I think I could manage about 10 women, and they would have to bring their own scissors since I don’t own that many pairs.  Glue and magazines I’ve got, scissors not so much.

So I am looking for goal setting exercises.  They are surprisingly hard to find.  There are a lot of sites devoted to professional development and goal setting in that regard but really almost nothing about personal goal setting.  The principles must be the same however so I just need to tweak them.  Of course I would need to tweak them in any case to make them my own.  I’m about being inspired by other people, not stealing their work.

I believe I can do this.  It seems very do-able.  It also doesn’t overlap the government job so there should be no conflict of interest.  The first one or two would be free while I get my feet under me, then I would have to start charging.  I wonder if I could even do it monthly.

Words of encouragement and suggestions only, please.  I have enough nay-sayers in my own head as it is.  I could stand some support around this idea.


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Mentoring

I have received an email from a lady whose creative work I follow and it includes an offer for mentoring.  This is a group email, so no big personal decision here and frankly while I could probably use a life coach, I’m pretty sure I can’t afford her.  I’m sure she would expect to be paid for her time.  No judgement implied, we all need to get paid somehow and if I didn’t have a job, I’d want to do what she does, get paid to talk to people.

The thing is, I would like to be mentored but I don’t have a goal.  If I had a career goal or a life goal, that would be one thing.  But I don’t have a real career goal, just to do something I enjoy and I think I’ll be doing that soon (more in a minute).  And my biggest life goal is to learn to love people, which I do the best I can and I am getting better at it.  I don’t have something specific that I could be coached to do.

This is not the first time I’ve gotten an offer, or even just been reminded that there are opportunities if I choose to pursue them, for mentoring.  I wonder if this is something I should reconsider.  Would it help me find a goal?  Is a life goal even necessary?  Is it enough to be sure my daughter manages her life in a good way?  I mean, for parents, there is an age where your children are the purpose of your life.  She’s past that age though she still needs help and guidance sometimes, but I’m not sure I want another long term project that requires that kind of dedication.  Not that my child is a project, but parenting, man, that’s a long term commitment.  Do I really want to take on another big goal?  I don’t know.  On the other hand, do I need maybe a little more direction than I have right now?  Maybe.

Yeah, work.  I passed the background check and I will be a reservist in about a month.  I’m just waiting for the start date.  I have 3 more emails to receive — the final offer, the training schedule, and the travel itinerary — and I can’t wait until I get them.  I am very excited about this.  More details will become available as time passes.

I still want to put together the subscription box too.  I love mailing things out and if I can get it to be self-supporting, I mean I don’t even need to make money just not lose any, that would be great.  The theme is chakras.  I am hoping for a $25 dollar box with maybe $5 shipping.

I am into the M’s in my mailing list project.  Once I get to the end, the next thing will be to answer the letters I’ve received in response.  Then I will move on to the mail art list.  I just want to get cool mail so I have to learn how to send cool mail.  Mail as a hobby is like instant karma.

Nothing deep in closing.  Just wishing you all love and joy.