I got a private message from someone saying that my comments on her posts only make her feel worse so she was going to unfriend me. She must have already blocked me because I just happened to be online so I read the message almost as soon as it was posted and I wasn’t able to reply to her.
This makes me sad. I didn’t know I was bothering her with my comments. I wish she had said something before it got to this point. I wish I knew better how to connect with her.
I know her from a mental health support group. I assume she has issues, but then I have issues. We all have issues there. That’s why we’re in a mental health support group in the first place. I would usually go to that group for feedback, but I don’t feel like I can. I don’t want to piss her off even more, for a start, but I also don’t want to open myself up to trolling if I really am a jerk.
I don’t think I’m a jerk, but it matters what other people think of me. Not a lot, but some. I mean, you can hardly be a jerk to yourself but you might not see how you are being a jerk to other people. We all get nearsighted and can’t see how what we did affects others.
So tell me I am being difficult for you before you get to the point where all you can do is run away. I thought we were getting to know each other, but apparently that didn’t cut both ways. I am sad. I’m sad that she unfriended me and I’m sad that she didn’t speak up sooner and I’m sad that I don’t know what I did.
July 14, 2018 at 9:56 am
Hi Allison Donna here I certainly understand you’re being hurt about a person unfriending you and they’re not communicating with you and letting you know what comments were made that they were concerned about so in my mind you’re better off without this person because a definition of a friend is someone who cares enough to communicate with you